The art of female ejaculationPosted: September 23, 2011
i’ve thought for a while on posting about this, and as far as i know, it hasn’t been covered (i asked Badger). for the purpose of this post, you will NOT be talking to the charming Sailor that usually posts. you will be speaking to HM1(SW)Danny. i will be using Medical terminology, and clinic speak.
first things first. before you even ATTEMPT this endeavor, the girl has to be VERY comfortable with you (and herself). this is not something to try and “wing”. you must explain to the woman that as the orgasm approaches she’s going to feel like she has to urinate. this is where most women have difficulties. the “squirting” DOES come from the womans urethra, but the fluid is secreted from the Skene’s gland. it’s alkaline in nature (like urine) but is NOT urine. this is what freaks women out. they get self-conscious, feel it building, have the sensation of urinating building up, and they…..hold back. this is what messed the ex up. it took 4 runs; each time lasting about 15-20 minutes of yours truly wearing his arm out before she finally “popped”. she was nervous and self conscious that she was going to “pee on me”. i had to constantly coax her to “just let go”.
the climax produced from this is a “vaginal orgasm”. most women experience “clitoral orgasms”. clitoral orgasm are great (ask any woman), but vaginal orgasm’s are a WHOLE other monster. the french call it “le petite morte” or “the little death”. this orgasm involves the g-spot. now, not all women have one (so don’t blame her). to find hers, curve your index finer and middle finger (like the picture below) and gently feel the upper portion of her vagina, you should feel a slightly spongy textured section (about the size of a quarter) about an inch or so from the entrance of her vagina. trust me, that area feels MUCH different from the other sections of the vaginal walls.
insert these 2 fingers inside after you’ve “warmed her up”. if “warming her up” needs explaining….please quit reading. you’re not ready for this.
place the heel of the palm of your free hand just above her pubic bone and push down slightly. now, this is where most guys have a hard time. you have to move your hand in a up-and-down circular motion inside her….HARD. i know you think it looks uncomfortable, but remember….she can push an 8 pound child through there, you ain’t hurting her. start out relatively gently and slowly and go harder and use more pressure based on her reaction. seriously, i’ve NEVER had a girl go, “OOOW, WHAT THE HELL!!!”. and make sure your nails are trimmed, you don’t want to cut her. with your fingers curved in said manner you will be stimulating her G-spot. you can also go in an up-and-down motion to get to said result. every woman is different, you’re going to have to experiment (but that’s the fun part). feedback from her is crucial. she should feel an intense stimulation leading to a feeling for having to urinate. if she feel’s like she’s going to urinate, YOU’RE DOING IT RIGHT. encourage her, encourage her, encourage her. if/when she finally squirts immediately compliment her with a hearty, “good girrrrl.” i know this may sound patronizing, but this is what karen taught me: girls have a hard-wired trigger to the “good girl” phrase. she said it’s a VERY strong/positive phrase linked to most women’s girlhood. again, i’ve used often and never had a woman get upset at my saying it.
your success with this is going to be based mostly on how comfortable she is sexually. if she’s somewhat of a repressed girl, she’s going to have a hard time ejaculating. and…..some girls simply won’t be able to achieve it. go through the motions i just explained and if she feels a climax building stay with whatever pressure you’re applying. if it get’s more intense…..you’re on the right track. it may take a few attempts to get her there. but if you do, it’s WELL worth it. as the lady who taught me this pointed out, “guy screw up by changing rhythm/pressure when a girl says she’s getting close, DON’T DO THAT. if she says she’s getting close, DON’T CHANGE ANYTHING. use the exact pace and pressure you’re using.” every women i’ve mentioned this to laughed and nodded in agreement when i brought this up.
if you get her there, expect a stream of fluid to squirt from her urethra (every woman is different, some squirt a forceful stream, others have a light trickle), she will likely convulse and NOT want to be touched immediately afer. i got kicked pretty hard the first time the ex squirted, and was knocked off the bed. the orgasm produced from this method is VERY intense so after she climaxes let her be until she lets you know she wants to be touched again. it very well could take up to 5 minutes for her to recover. again praise her if she get’s there, it can be a pretty big achievement for her to ejaculate, it’s VERY difficult for some girls so ALWAYS encourage and praise her.
again, realize this takes practice and you may have to try it a few times to get results. i KNOW what i’m doing with this and it took the ex 4 times before she was finally able to “let go”. but the results are worth it. the good news is that once she’s experienced it, she can produce said results herself. as karen explained, “danny, you could know everything there is to know about a woman’s body, but if she doesn’t know her body…..you’re aiming at a target in the dark.” so guys, don’t go too hard on yourself is she doesn’t get there. this should be a fun experience for the both of you, not a science project, so keep it intamate. a woman can tell when you’re doing something simply for your ego, so you HAVE to make the experience 100% ABOUT HER OWN PLEASURE.
best of luck, and i’d love to hear about success stories with this. and tell your gf/wife i said “you’re welcome.” lol.