Female ejaculation: follow up.Posted: September 27, 2011
alright, i’m speaking with the woman who reads and says she can ejaculate (she had me remove her post). she agreed to a “Q and A”. here’s what she told me. i don’t see her commenting as she’s a bit shy. but she’s been very gracious as to offering up information. she’s probably sick of me calling. lol.
“i know what i’m doing (in regards to pulling this off). that post has received a TON of views (216 total, and 7 views today and it’s going up). the entire purpose of the blog is to teach guys. that’s all i care about. seriously. but i respect your not wanting to share, if that’s your choice. i find posting about my real life validates that an average, ok looking guy can be relatively successful with women. i appreciate you reading. i don’t get a lot of comments because i think most guys are to shy to speak up because they’re embarrassed.
“I might consent to a Q&;A or something. But the answers would all be anecdotal. I’ve discussed it with my close girlfriends (their advice is pretty much the same as yours, btw: “fuck em” – not literally) My bestie has done it a few times, but it’s rare for her.
I was just reading the wikipedia. I’m surprised how much disbelief there is in just the existence of female ejaculation. It’s sorta funny, but I’m not surprised. As far as I know there is only one girl who is doing it where people can see and she’s a porn star. I can’t imagine a woman willing to “squirt for science”, if she even could. I certainly wouldn’t.”
“well, i had a lesbian room-mate go down on her gf to show me how to “read” a womans body. then she showed me how dana could squirt and how she had to manipulate dana with her fingers. i was 25 at the time. i’m very fortunate. i was just hoping you could give a brief “blow by blow” *wokka wokka* on when you start to how you finally climax. i know a woman back home that can, but she prefers being penetrated the standard way. she find’s climax from ejaculation uncomfortable.
before you climax do you feel like you’re going to urinate.
i posted this b/c i found out there aren’t a lot of the other blogs posting about it. and if a guy could learn it, it’ll be just one more skill that will please his woman. it’s not a “dude, high five, guess what i can do?” that would annoy me.”
“It’s not the same as needing to urinate. It is a kind of pressure from your bladder, so it’s similar. In fact, if you hold it in the same way that you hold a full bladder when you’re stuck in traffic after 3 lattes, you can stop it. (not you obviously, pardon my pronouns) It took me a while to learn to tell the difference between wanting to come and needing to pee (fortunately I learned this on my own, so nobody got peed on.) It looks and smells different from pee though, it’s clear and it doesn’t smell like pee, it smells like p***y. [edit-this sentence made me VERY happy. it made my wee move ]
“how did you teach yourself? did you use a toy or fingers? karen told me most women need/want something inserted in there to clamp down on. this pressure, do you find you just have to “let go” and allow the process to happen?
would you say my description and method was accurate. i.e.-would it work on you?
“Yeah. You need something inside. A man’s fingers are adequate, but mine are too small. I have a cheap $10 vibrator, but the vibration was too much so I took the batteries out. I’d imagine a less sensitive girl could stand using a g-spot vibrator.”
“i use just fingers, but have told women that have inquired about how to do it, i always tell them to use the vibrator “that has the upward curve” and insert up side to the upper portion of her vagina.
so yes, regarding the pressure: you do just have to “let go” and allow it to happen? how long does it take for you to climax, and do you find that once you learn, you can make yourself orgasm relatively quickly?”
“Sorta depends on how aroused I was to begin with. I’m pretty sure most women take a lot longer than I do.
Mine doesn’t have an upward curve, I just angle it. I also like to put it in as far as it will go and use my fingers to slam it against the back. (though guys shouldn’t try that unless they can draw a detailed map of a vagina because it hurts if you hit the cervix).”
“oh i could see how that would be painful. which is why i recommend the method i use. obviously you know your body, so you’re good. most guys are absolutely clueless about everything beyond the clitoris.
how does a clitoral orgasm, feel compared to a vaginal orgasm. and do you have a preference?”
“A clitoral orgasm without penetration reaches a crescendo and then fizzles out. A clitoral orgasm with penetration is better. I can usually ejaculate from that no problem. Though it’s not the same as a g-spot orgasm, which, if properly executed is a bit like losing my mind for a minute while it takes a trip through the Halls of Asgard. Meanwhile my entire body gets this dizzy feeling. It’s hard to describe, you know when you get dizzy and you have a sort of tingling sensation in your head? Imagine that in your legs, arms, torso, etc. and it’s all radiating from your crotch, which you can no longer feel the components of, it all just feels like a mass of vibrating jello. Squirting is like opening a pressure valve on all of that. It’s not necessarily the end.
Add to that:
Except when it is the end. There will be no doubt when she’s had enough. That’s the part when somebody gets kicked.”
“i see. so, you don’t have to squirt to have a g-spot orgasm? you obviously know your body. what’s alarming to me is how many WOMEN don’t understand how their orgasm works outside of clitoral stimulation. the ex was that way. in your experience from yourself or friends can you string them in succession (multiple orgasm) when you have a g-spot orgasm?
after climax…..how long is your typical recovery time?”
“Multiples are a whole different animal. You can have multiples from the clit, but it tends to get really sensitive which makes further stimulation painful. It’s a bit like a teeny-tiny penis (side tangent, my bestie and I like to say disgusting things in crowded restrooms just to see who laughs. My favorite is to go into a stall and say, “What CAN you do with a one-inch clit?”) G-spot stimulation creates multiples quite nicely, though personally I think it takes too long to get going, I like a little clit-love to get it going. Multiples and squirting are not mutually exclusive. Also squirting is not necessarily an indicator of intensity. Sometimes I’ll have several ejaculations before the big orgasm that causes me to twitch and shake and climb off of whatever is stimulating me (or kick the guy-lol) and the last big one won’t produce any fluid at all.
Typically recovery time: about a minute before I can snuggle, about 20-30 minutes before I can go again….if I’m not busy getting a snack.”
“i see. as far as i’m know, i haven’t had a girl go multile Miggs on me. so this is a huge help for a future girlfriend. i was kicked yes, and it was about 2-3 minutes before she’d let me touch her again. then she started laughing a giggling (though this was just an idiosyncrasy of her when she climaxed).
i can’t think of any other questions at the moment. but i really appreciate your talking to me about this.
any advice you’d offer to guys who want to give their gf/wife a g-spot, ejaculating or vaginal orgasm?”
I don’t know. All women are different and I’ve never given a girl an orgasm. What works on me probably won’t work on other women, because I’m clearly a freak of nature with way too many vaginal nerve endings.
I’m interested in this boob orgasm business. How does that work?”
i’ll ask OTC to elaborate. but i knew a woman what said shee can climax just by a guy playing with her breasts. i dated a woman in san diego who could orgasm by simply going down on a me. it was kind freaky becuse she’d be servicing me, then she’s just suddenly shudder, stop for a second, sigh, then go back to work.
again….again, as you stated: all women are different”
i hope this gives you guys some insight. i ALWAYS talk openly with the gf about what “pushed her buttons”. actually, i experiment with her as much as i can to see what works for her as many women have a hard time being open about about what they like don’t like. but i ALWAYS ask first. if she doesn’t offer much insight. then i have to “learn the local terrain.”
For further input, check out the following post on School of squirt. You can’t go wrong with female input.