Books for guys who actually LIKE to read: Isolation and Being AlonePosted: January 20, 2012
IT’S FRIDAY!!!!!! and you know what that means, BOOK NIGHT. today i thought i’d cover a subject that is a common theme here among the guy blogs: INTROVERSION. i’m an INTJ…..almost to a tea. the following books i thought were VERY good subject matter for said subject.
- “Party of One: The Loner’s Manifesto”- Anneli Rufus. this is one of those books i liked so much that i told a friend to read it, and i never saw it again. Read it back in Japan, so we’re talking 2004’ish. Anneli talks about Loner’s, and dispels the myth that they are “fringe” people unable to conform or exist in social situations. No, it’s just Loner’s prefer to be, well…ALONE. it’s how we prefer to spend our time. Deniro has a great line in “ronin” where he tells a woman, “i’m alone, but i’m not lonely.” that’s ALPHA SHIT right there. from amazon, “….Loners keep to themselves, and like it that way. Yet in the press, in films, in folklore, and nearly everywhere one looks, loners are tagged as losers and psychopaths, perverts and pity cases, ogres and mad bombers, elitists and wicked witches. Too often, loners buy into those messages and strive to change, making themselves miserable in the process by hiding their true nature—and hiding from it. Loners as a group deserve to be reassessed—to claim their rightful place, rather than be perceived as damaged goods that need to be “fixed.” In Party of One Anneli Rufus — a prize-winning, critically acclaimed writer with talent to burn — has crafted a morally urgent, historically compelling tour de force—a long-overdue argument in defense of the loner, then and now.” i’ve LOOONG come to terms with my being a Loner, and i like it. If you a fellow male introvert, you owe it to yourself to peep this.
- “God’s Lonely Man”- Thomas Wolfe- ok….i FUCKING LOVE Thomas Wolfe. as far as i’m concerned he’s the most under-rated american writer EVAAAR!!! he influenced Kerouac and Bradberry, among others. his untimely death from Tuberculosis was just a crime. i LOVE his short stories. “God’s Lonely Man” is Wolfe’s AMAZING essay on the experience of being alone. i heard about it when it was referenced in “Seven” and i immediately looked for the book. it’s VERY profound. it’s also a relatively short read. so, the plus side is if you get yer mitts on a copy of his short stories you’ll have other gems to read. i recommend: “Chickamaugah”- the story of a civil war battle, and “the Lion in the Winter”- a rich new york man goes about his daily routine that realizes he still has life in his veins.
- HONORABLE MENTION: “The Perks of being a Wallflower- Charles Chbosky- never read it, but i’ve heard it’s really good. haven’t read it because it deals with a kid who’s well, kind of non-existent in his high school. been there done that. BUUUT…i think if you have a kid, you should read it to get an idea of what you child may be experiencing; especially if he isn’t in the “in crowd”.
i’ve made no attempt to hide the fact that LIKE being a loner, i prefer my own (and brody’s) company. i don’t NEED to be around people to thrive. the only exception is a gf, i have NO PROBLEM with a gf being around me during the day, i rather like having a woman around (read: MY woman). well, in researching “God’s Loney Man” i found this GEM. enjoy.
what i liked about this was i GET IT. totally. i’ve looked into the abyss and felt the greatest feeling of calm and peace ever. i feel this is a VITAL part of a man’s journey to fulfillment. its pure outcome independence. the universe will unfurl as it always does. i don’t know what will happen tomorrow, next week, next year, in 10 years. and i’m FINE with that. make you life, YOUR LIFE, and your ultimate goal. whether it’s the path less taken, the path of the herd, whatever…..don’t worry about approval or failure. YOU are all that matters. FUCK THE HERD. if you don’t learn how to be happy with and accept yourself for who and what you are, you’ll never EVER truly be happy. and no woman will ever want to walk the world with you either.