What’s REALLY importantPosted: February 28, 2012 | |
i was done.
we’d been dating for 3 months and i knew i wanted out. the girls i worked with were friends with the gf and pulled a quasi-intervention. long-story short, my co-worker ladies told the gf i wasn’t happy. the gf was VERY surprised.
“but…why isn’t he happy, he’s getting laid.” smh. of course my girls are TOP-NOTCH and saw red-flags immediately and told her my getting laid was NOT going to keep me around. the gf was thoroughly and honestly confused. i have to admit, from my point…..it was over. i ended it maybe a week or two later.
fast forward to her wanting to have “the talk”. now….this girl was VERY into me. but…she didn’t have much guy experience. i shoulder some responsibility there because i KNEW that going in, but after 3 months…i had ZERO attraction to her. so i ended it.
and she.was.crushed. i learned this from the guys in her shop. she was a fucking zombie. one of my girls in medical MADE me tell her why i ended it. and she was right. the ex deserved to know the truth. so….i made arrangements to give her my perspective about the relationship. there were quite a few issues, but she dropped this BOMB on me. she mentioned she didn’t get why i wasn’t happy when she was putting out.
i went into the red IMMEDIATELY!!!!! i fired off, “DO YOU THINK I CAN FUCK YOU 24 HOURS A DAY???!!!!” her face dropped and i could see she knew she made a misstep. i continued…..”dammit, we’ll spend what…..1-2 hours a day having sex, 8-9 hours sleeping, what the fuck do i do with you for the other 13-14 hours a day. because it WON’T be spent having sex. i’m not with you because i just want to fuck you; i LIKE you. i wanted to have you around me. now i DON’T want you around….and i’m SOOO not even thinking about sex with you.”
that’s enough. basically she left the exchange abruptly, and she was crying. the point of this post is that soooo many women are worried about being hot and sexy, BUT….a good man can fuck a hot and sexy woman easily. he just won’t keep her around. but he WILL keep a cool, fun, and giving woman around. the ex took took took took took and i eventually got tired of her. but the woman who’ll win my affection will be a decent woman that puts the same effort into me that i put into her. because if she’s a good woman, i WILL put the effort in. as the saying goes…..
if the sex is good, it’s 10% of the relationship. if the sex is bad, it’s 90% of the relationship. i’d love nothing more than the ladies reading here to work on being great woman, not vixens. i’ll totally fuck a vixen, but i’ll KEEP and fight for a great woman. but being knee-deep in the SMP, i can tell you….most women aren’t concerned with being “great woman”. hell….most of them already thing they ARE great women, yet, have the same mentality the ex had.