Men flirt, Women give IOI’s.Posted: March 3, 2012
i was talking with a reader in email land and she made mention of something i hear/read a lot from women on the blogs. she was asking for my opinion on a guy she’s into. i told her to look for IOI’s and do the normal girl game thing. she asked me what “guy IOI’s are” and i thought for a second. DAMN. i didn’t say this but i immediately thought “uuuuuuuuh, he pulls his dick out.” i keed, i keed. an IOI from a guy is, “hi…what’s your name?”
that’s it. if a guy is talking to you and he has ZERO reason to…he’s probably into you. NOW, most men and women are clueless about the opposite sex. but it’s really quite easy.
as a man i need to be cognizant of a woman’s body language and read what she’s sending me. you ladies just have to do your thing and let a fellah know you’re interested. once the attraction is there the IOI’s typically come naturally. if a guy blows it and overplays his hand the woman will go cold and she’ll no longer entertain a conversation with you. i number close ASAP and move on. best to get a number or email and let her miss you and the interaction than to keep at it and over-do it.
so…what’s an IOI from a man…..i already covered that, what’s an IOI from a woman: touching you, playing with her hair, lowering her head and exposing her neck, preening, laughing in an overly done fashion (my jokes are funny….but they’re not THAT funny), leaning towards you and completely facing you as you talk to her. all these are signs that whatever you’re doing, you’re doing right. she MIGHT shit test you and if she does, agree and amplify works best. if at any point she call you a player, simply say, “no i’m not a player, i’m THE player. i have 299 girlfriends, i MIGHT have found #300. you down?” guys, if she’s being chatty….you’re doing fine. escalation is your next step. my typical escalation is: after i’ve made her laugh a second time i say, “you have a really cute laugh, keep laughing like that and you might end up pregnant.” i LOVE the pregnancy reference, it frames her sexually, but it’s too over the top to take seriously, i’m a big fan of it. i’ve NEVER had it fail. seriously. use it and reap it’s benefits.
men flirt (so do women), but women give the IOI’s. guys are WALKING IOI’s. lol. stay up.