Into the locker room: Why I tell guys to wait until later to get Married (if they want to)Posted: March 22, 2012 | |
i talk to a lot of younger guys, guys in their early 20’s (mostly active duty), and it’s not always about military/navy stuff. i talk to them about their relationships and red-pill philosophy. when i talk red-pill they look at me wide-eyed with complete amazement. i always tell them to avoid getting married while on active duty (we already to discussed WHY i tell this to guys), then i advise them to avoid marriage at all costs until they are in their 30’s. now, before hamsters start running wild let me explain WHY i tell them this.
- most guys are functionally retarded in their 20’s. i wasn’t really RIGHT until 5-6 years ago. but, once you hit your 30’s, a man is better equipped to be a better partner to a woman. he’s more emotionally mature, and he’s more capable of providing a woman what a woman NEEDS from a man. they may not WANT to admit it, but a woman LOVES a man who has the capacity to provide. i’m not talking rich, i’m talking gainfully employed. in his 20’s, he’s still too green financially and emotionally. so date as much as you can. take your lumps, and soldier through your 20’s. you’ll experience heart-break and get off your ass and do interesting shit to cultivate a personality that interesting. put the xbox down and get out into the world. women OWN the 20’s, they have all the power, and most of them like older guys anyway.
- in your 30’s a guy’s sex drive slows down a bit. now i still have a HARDCORE libido. but….i’m no longer controlled by my sex drive, or….at the very least, getting laid isn’t really a priority. once you have that…..you gain a new perspective on women. you aren’t just looking at them and thinking with your dick. you looking at them my closely, qualifying them based on personality and partner potential. stay in shape, be interesting, and understand game. do that and YOU’LL be in the driver’s seat in qualifying the women you encounter. and more than likely…..a woman of good stock will be chasing after you.
- a man in his 30’s is more than likey than a 20ish year old guy to KNOW what he wants out of his life. that is MAJOR tingle crack. at the very least, have an idea. nothing makes you sexier to a woman than having a mission statement. i’m all about this. and you’re more than likely to stick to your guns and or make an educated decision about your life’s path. a good woman will bend over backwards (giggity) to help you get there. and when you do…she’ll swoon and want to show you off.
- your dating pool will be even larger in the 30-40’s than in you 20’s. this is directly related to #1. i had a woman ask me today if i’ve ever dated a woman in her 30’s. the answer: no. not because i don’t want to, but the women that gravitate towards me are in their early 20’s. the older women i’ve run into in the past have 2 or more kids and got derailed when i saw (yes actually EXPERIENCED) baby daddy drama on the horizon. so i bailed. i need to be clear here after the “cosmo” post: i NEVER said a woman in her 30’s isn’t sexy or attractive. women are reading WAAAAY too much into the “men crave youth and beauty”. that doesn’t necessarily mean once you hit 30…hang it up, it’s over. that’s preposterous. women just need to be cognizant in the later years that they have younger competition and have to employ something most women in their 20’s don’t know: how to take care of a man. if you’re a GOOD WOMAN, you can keep a good man simply by taking care of him. don’t tolerate disrespect or maltreatment. ladies: take care of yourself, be feminine, and be nurturing.
so guys, remember…..your 20’s are an SMP battleground. collect your victories and losses. and trust me, you’ll have PLENTY of losses. but i’m here to tell you…..if you take the red pill and wait until your 30’s…..you’ll see a HUGE change in the SMP. i hope this helps.