On SeductionPosted: May 21, 2012
I’ve spent many years learning about seduction/influence. It’s always fascinated me. I’ve had more than one post on how I go about chatting up girls. It’s a system I learned by studying and reading books on Eastern Philosophy regarding the subject. Most people hear seduction and think “getting someone into bed.” Such thoughts truly offer a narrow vision as to the REAL power of seduction.
Seduction is enticement. Nothing more, nothing less. It is not good nor evil (much like game); the context of the user is what makes seduction good or bad- whether your goal is to get the cutie into the sack, or learn an enemies secrets to plan an attack, is up to you. Whether you use more nefarious means, or playful luring…..again, your call. I’ll do my best to include exercises for you to practice over a week. Then I’ll follow up and see if anyone “got better”. I take ZERO responsibility for the manner in which you choose to use this. But it can be VERY helpful in assisting in “reading” someone.
There’s a LOT of technicality to this that I won’t bother with. I’ll just stick to the meat an potato’s. This knowledge is gender neutral, ANYONE can learn and use it. I very well may be repeating what “PUA game” sites have stated, but this is how I developed from what I’ve studied and had to use personally. Let’s get started.
In order to know what type of personality you’re dealing with you must LISTEN to them. Crash course here guys. When I first talk to someone, I pay attention to the words they use. Mostly- do I sense negativity or positivity? If sense negativity in a woman, I bail or use their negativity to find out as much as I can about them to find what angle I can work. Keep them talking long enough and they’ll usually tell you their weakness or willingness.
There’s a VERY good reason I use humor from the beginning of any human interaction. Lowering the minds defenses is crucial to seduction. You don’t want them “on guard” or suspicious of you. This can be done in less than 1 minute. IF you don’t have the luxury of being able to find out as much about them as you can beforehand, you have to begin slowly and open them up to revealing details about themselves. Humor is ALWAYS my strategy.
Once you’ve committed to seduction you must coax them into your world. Not the past and not the future. If the person is preoccupied with what happened at work, they aren’t listening to you. If she’s concerned about all the guys that have fucked her over in the past….chances are you’ll never be one of the those guys that gets to see her naked. If she’s concerned about that paper she hasn’t worked on, she not concerned with what an awesome dude you are. How do you keep them out of the past or future? You keep them in the NOW. One of my favorite lines is if a woman is complaining about the guys in her past I redirect/frame her with, “Let’s not talk about things that didn’t work out.” This is a VERY powerful frame.
Age plays a HUGE part of seduction. The young adversary is usually vain and impatient. A young love usually feels they deserve attention or are too smart to fall for a trick. For older women, they usually want to feel useful and needed. A young woman looking to seduce a man simply offers herself as a gift, with MANY strings attached. Gold diggers do it all the time. Looking to seduce an older man, have him teach you something. Thus you gain his confidence and influence.
Like I said, it can be VERY dark. But at the same time VERY useful in life.
So…..how do I seduce.
1- Lower their defenses. Make them laugh and feel comfortable.
2- Listen to them VERY intently, what kind of adjectives do they use. Do they seem negative or positive? Are they dwelling on past or future issues/project/problems? Are they chatty or need to be coaxed in conversation? Are they vain, aggressive, shy?
3- Keep them in the NOW. The individual is talking to ME. So I keep them focused on ME, until I decided I have all the info I need to determine which way to go. If I’m chatting up a woman I keep her mind on pleasurable experiences in her past then reference near future ones where I inject myself into the equation (escalation anyone?). It can be a subtle transition or very direct depending on what she gives you to work with. Remember my line about, “you’re gonna end up pregnant”? If it’s an adversary, I stroke the ego and slowly work my way to him telling me the subject I REALLY want to know about.