More on Closing 8-10’s

I received an email from the gentleman who was having a hard time closing 8-10’s. I’d like the GUYS to read it over and tell me what his problem is. Saturday night I will post my response to him.

“Hey Danny,

So I’ve been applying your advice whenever I can (I find it awkward to go out for the sole purpose of seeking women). And I can see what you’re talking about. I have a bad case of pedestalization…smh

I work in the school’s fitness center and I see a fair share of some pretty women, but I really keep to myself because I don’t want to be THAT guy. I help them out when they need me and am decent at flirting/joking with them when the opportunity arises.

The other day, I had just clocked out and was ready to head home, then these 2 girls walked in. One of em was OK with nice tits and the other looked pretty damn good. Apparently, they were from the other campus of my school and came to use the gym. It was their first time there, so they wanted a tour. TBH, I wasn’t in the mood at the time to test the waters: I was hungry and tired. My friend at the desk quickly suggested (damn near demanded) I give em a tour. So I said fuck it and went with it. The girls turned out to be pretty cool: I joked with em, flirted…the whole 9. THEN, I caught myself. I noticed my body language was out of whack, I got all smiley and giggly. I was just fuckin goofy. I tend to get real smiley, and girls love it…to an extent, but idk I how I feel about it. I took long pauses for my answers…a little wierd. But it seemed they were down with the kid. Slow progress is better than no progress I figure.

One thing that grinds my gears is when I find out an ugly girl…let me rephrase a female I find unattractive has a thing for me. By all means, everyone’s free to like whomever they want. Cool. One of my co-workers told me one of the girls in athletic department has it for me.

She’s a nice person and all that, but she’s a whale. I can’t imagine trying to get it up with her. I think it’s because I’m a generally nice dude. You know, I greet people when I see them, ask em about their day, etc. And I smile…fuck. I think she took it the wrong way. I would’ve rather not known and I don’t want her to approach me.

Why don’t I get this from the pretty girls? And why is it sometimes I say hello to a good looking woman, I don’t get it in return. This isn’t recent. I mean, it’s a genuine “how are you” and w/e as I’m walking down the street. I’d sometimes get this expressionless look or scowl. Idk man. It just turns me off…I’m not that dude lookin to hit it ALL the time.

Oh and it was cool of you to post my situation on your blog. It was interesting to read the comments. I especially liked Yohami’s binary system. Certainly is an interesting way to look at women.”

So, what do you fellas think?


4 Comments on “More on Closing 8-10’s”

  1. I know you want GUYS to answer, but I’m gonna, so deal.

    The reason this guy gets the attention of unattractive women he’s not into is because he acts NORMAL around them. As soon as he gets around a hot babe, he freezes up, gets tongue tied, acts goofy, and it’s not sexy.

    He needs to learn some game, and that’s where you come in Danny.

  2. aneroidocean says:

    Smiley and giggly = OMG maybe he’ll be my new gay best friend!

    Genuine, relaxed with the fatty = Oh, wow, he makes my gina tingle so hard!

    Simplified, but true.

  3. Chewie says:

    What aneroidocean said. This guy cares about thenpretty girls liking him, so he plays ip the humor and the fun guy demeanor around them so he can cause a response from them. I don’t see anything wrong with being a pleasant and an amiable fellow, but in this instance it’s an act.

    The guy isn’t altering his personality around the fat girl and he’s deliberately getting goofy around the attractive women. The attractive women see the goofiness as likable, yet it does NOTHING to boost their attraction to him.


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