Socially UnacceptablePosted: September 21, 2012 | |
Had an interesting occurrence go down yesterday. Needed some time to think about it before posting. This week has been a mind fuck as I’m meeting more of the bloggers getting a better behind the scenes look on the blogsphere in general.
I’ve long posted about my chatting up cashiers, waitresses, and girls behind a counter as a practice to keep the gift of gab strong. Hell last year I was banned from a 5 Guys Burgers and Fries because I: number closed one girl, and made a comment to another girl that WAS NOT insulting, degrading, or sexual in any way. Now, I have since started going back there and as it turns out…..I am a LEGEND there. One of the guys that works there knows me from WAAAAAAY back when I started going to the place. I mean, I might have stopped in once a week back then. This young man said as I walked in, “BRAH, MAAAAN. THIS IS HIM!!! HE’S THE ONE THAT PISSED OFF (can’t recall her name, but the manager that I pissed off) ********”. The guys behind the counter all looked on excitedly. It was kind of awkward to be honest. I’ll LOOK for the original post to link so you can have a back story (see above). But the kid basically told me she doesn’t work there anymore and that they don’t have a problem with me patronizing the joint.
Well, yesterday after walking through a down-pour, I stopped at my local supermarket to buy some beer and cottage cheese (casein ftw). I was talking, read that again, TALKING with the young women behind the counter and we were both laughing. As I walked away a manager stopped me and asked if he could talk to me. Then he mentioned walking away so “people don’t notice me talking to you.” I ALREADY knew what he was going to say. He proceeded to tell me that “a few of the girls had mentioned me making them uncomfortable with some of my comments”, but that he hadn’t noticed me acting inappropriately with the girl I was just talking to, so I might want to “be aware, and tone it down” THEN, he proceeded to tell me how much he appreciates my coming in as often as I do, and valuing me as a customer blah blah blah. Ok.
Ok, I admit. This threw me off. I ended up talking to another blogger about it and he made a GREAT point that I hadn’t considered. I’ll touch on that later. Actually, can any of you readers figure out what this blogger told me?
Now, it’s usually VERY apparent when a woman is uncomfortable with flirtation. I have NEVER asked for a number, nor made suggestive/sexual comments to ANY woman in this store. And TBH I can only think of ONE girl that MIGHT have said something, but she approaches me to say hello most of the times I see her. So as I left the store I was in a WTF state of mind.
As an aside, the young lady that offered to walk me to my car came by my desk today and I again thanked her for her act of genuine kindness. I told her it was one of the nicest things anyone had done for me in a while. She gushed and thanked me. Girls. Lol. Wait a minute; I have an idea…..