Comment of the Week: Navy CorpsmanPosted: September 25, 2012
Navy Corpsman regularly posts on a number of blogs and he made a comment on my “Rambling” post. The comment was so profound I thought it needed to be posted since I feel EVERY man should read. Especially the younger guys.
“Could not leave this alone… you ask if just being older, nearing 40 has something to do with your lack of enthusiasm towards marriage. It does, but not in the sense that you’re not ready to settle down.
Getting older does a major number on your willingness to put up with any shit, from any given human being. 40 is just a number, but it’s a LARGER number than 20 or 30. You finally realize you’re nearing the midpoint of your life, and it hits you that you just don’t want to deal with drama, hamsters or borderline personality disorder, just so you might get laid on a semi-regular basis.
You’ve woken up to the fact that the amount of effort it takes, isn’t equaled by the rewards AND the extra risks to the rest of your life. This, THIS is outcome independence. Comprehending that you, and only you, will truly take care of you.
Danny, we’ve only known each other through the net, but I know you like I know my younger self. You’re a fixer, a traditional man who wants to be that good guy who fixes everything around the house, fixes cars, fixes supper, and so on. You like to be depended upon, you prefer to be doing SOMETHING rather than be waited on, hand and foot.
And now, nearing 40, you’ve realized that almost no woman you’ve ever met, has any appreciation for those virtues.
I knew an empowered woman, once. Then the batteries in her vibrator went dead.
Do what you want to do, be what you want to be, hurt nothing in the process, and live well.”
The Navy Corpsman
Damn. I can’t find ANYTHING else to say. He’s 100% right on target. Again, I LOVE women. Anyone reading this site knows this as an unabashed fact. As he correctly stated, more eloquently than i ever could, I simply realize what’s in my best interest. And I seriously doubt, SERIOUSLY, that I’ll stumble upon a woman that fit’s the bill for me, or that can GUARANTEE not to fuck me over if it ends (and statistically it WILL).
Only the hamster can rationalize “you’ll find the right woman some day” despite the odds men face. Maybe I’ll have gf’s, maybe I’ll have lover’s, but a life-partner……HIGHLY UNLIKELY. And trust me, SEVERAL women have tried to convince me otherwise. That the Disney Princess is out there just for me.
To be honest…..
I just don’t really care anymore. trust me, if I’m hungry, I’ll eat. lol.