Female Partner CountPosted: October 26, 2012
There’s an interesting discussion going on on M3’s…. Oh, before I begin….
Ladies- You are ALL in time out. You are not allowed to read my blog for a week. I gave you a simple assignment, and NO ONE participated. I’m not angry at you, just VERY disappointed. I will have to take some time to consider if I need to dole out spankings, but I think some of you may enjoy that too much. You naughty, naughty girls.
But I shan’t punish the guys for your transgressions. The site’s about them after all.
Anyway, there’s an interesting conversation going on at M3’s site where a young Lady asks about the relevance of a woman’s partner count. M3’s post covers the relationship between a father and daughter and how it’s vital to the emotional growth of a young girl. Deti, as per usual, offers a TON of wisdom. The post should be read simply based on the merit of Deti’s wisdom. Sorry M3. Lol.
Deti replies to Ashley’s comment-
“there is no *proof* that women suffer emotionally from higher sex partners.”
Whether women have emotional pain from having a higher number of sex partners has not been studied. I think this is for a couple of reasons:
1. Women have notoriously poor insight into the causes of their emotions. IOW, they feel a certain way, but they don’t know why and cannot articulate why. Thus, anything you might ask women about this simply isn’t very reliable.
2. I don’t think researchers would ilke the results.
What we do know is that one study has found a direct relationship between the number of a woman’s sex partners and incidence of first marriage divorce. IOW, the more men she sexed, the greater her risk of divorce.
We also hear story after story after story of women saying they had a number of sex partners in their past, married, then
1. reporting a lack of attraction to their husbands
2. divorcing their husbands for “unhappiness” or incompatibility or other superficial reasons
3. reporting they felt bonded to previous partners, but not feeling bonded to later partners or current partner
All this suggests that as a woman’s partner count increases, her ability to bond to a long term sex partner decreases. Women are built to bond to their husbands. What we see is that marriages
I disagree that women don’t suffer emotionally from a higher number of sex partners. I like women. I don’t want to see them suffer. Too many of them are suffering already. They are suffering because they had sex with too many different men in their younger days and now are unable to be attracted to the men willing to marry them.
What typically happens to these women is finding themselves in a catch-22 over and over again: They are intensely attracted to alphas who bring the tingle in spades. But those alphas won’t marry them. There are betas willing to marry them, but the women aren’t attracted to them. So by failing to select a good, kind, reasonably attractive man as a young woman, commit to him and marry him; she limits herself to the following Hobson’s choice: continue with alpha STRs, membership in alpha soft harems, or alpha pump and dumps; or marriage to a beta who she finds sexually repulsive. This Hobson’s choice is the prime reason for the ever-growing choruses of:
1. “I’m not haaaaaappy! I want a divorce!”
2. “My husband is a good and kind and decent man. I’m just not attracted to him sexually, I never have been, and I feel terrible about it.”
3. “I wish my husband would cheat, so I can divorce him. I have never been attracted to him.
4. “I’m 39, I’m single, I’ve never been married, and any hope I have of ever finding someone to marry dwindles with each passing day, and I know it.”
I’ve posted before that the ex was a slut. I broke up with her after suspecting she was cheating. And i was right. Now she mentioned on SEVERAL occasions during the brief relationship that she would LOVE to be a SAHM; which was fine with me. But I also noticed she did NOTHING to help out around the house. At any rate- it doesn’t matter. It’s over, she’s got a kid, I’m assuming she’s Disney now.
I’ve heard about the correlation between a women sexual past and her propensity to cheating in marriage. I won’t argue, I have no real experience to back it up, but it sounds plausible. Personally, I won’t hold what a girl’s sexual past against her. It’s not my business. And yes, I’ve had girls flip on me when they learn how many girls I’ve slept with. My response, “Honestly, I couldn’t give you an exact number. A lot. Is that good enough?” Most girls are smart enough to let it at that. lol. And trust me guys, women KNOW when they’re dealing with a guy who’s been with a lot of women.
Ultimately guys, it’s up to you. I can’t/won’t dictate how to react when you learn your girls “been around”. But I for one believe when Deti says there are a great deal of women who leave the carousel and truly give it up. But I’m not so foolish as to not realize a woman that’s put out to a bunch of alpha’s is NOT as likely to cheat on your “nice” ass if you begin to bore her.
which reminds me of a great joke….