Kid GamePosted: November 30, 2012
Stingray recently posted about spending time with the hubster and how she marveled at her husband’s ability to “play” with and relate to their kids. One commenter beat me to the punch by explaining how men are essentially kids, “they like to play, we like to play.” I chimed in of course and I went through the blog looking for the post, but it buried, so I guess I’ll have to bring it up again.
I have been interacting with women for as long as I can remember. As I’ve stated before, I’m the neighborhood “single guy”. Everyone on my street knows each other. I was outside chatting with one of the dad’s and his daughter got my attention to show off her ability to ride some odd skateboard like thing. I knew she was flirting so I teased her about it taking her THIS long to finally learn how to ride the board and how, “that think is like, SOOOO 2011.” She giggled, and dad rolled his eyes. Then he mentioned about me being good with women in general. When I told him I “do ok” he pointed out that men good with kids (especially little girls) are typically good with women. Never thought about it but it makes a lot of sense.
Just like having pictures of yourself as a boy around your house, women see a man good with kids and they immediately think, “MUST MATE, MUST MATE!!!”.
I said on this site and other that the best way for guys to practice “game” is to interact with young girls. It’s a no brainer, you use teasing, negs, agree and amplify, etc. the SAME as you do with that cute waitress you’re digging. Every time I go back to NO we have several family dinners and I ALWAYS mess with my nieces. They LOVE Uncle Danny. Lol. You see, outcome independence is best learned when you’re NOT going for a win, just winning over a little girl’s heart. It’s simple validation. And…you’re NOT going to get shot down. You might even get shit-tested. Hell, I have a 6 year old niece that’s BEAUTIFUL and she shit tests like a CHAMP. And I smash them EVERYTIME. Here….
I was in the guest bedroom using the laptop and BS’ing with my sister’s kid Lauren. Then my niece walked in and I greeted her and asked for “my hug”. She looked at me, said, “No.” and walked over to Lauren.
Oh hell no.
I shrugged my should and said, “FINE, besides I didn’t REALLY want a hug from you anyway, because you just a stupid meany.” And went back to my lap top. My niece, God bless her, got up walked over to me and held out her arms. I picked her up hugged her and asked for my kiss. She kissed my cheek and I put her down and told her to go play. Off she scurried. Game, set, match.
Do you see what I did there?
In my quest to understand the female of the species I learned something VERY interesting. Females, from the time they are born are programmed to understand, evaluate, and process human facial expression and voice inflection. They are masters of social interaction, and always will be.
This explains why I ALWAYS make clear facial expressions and gestures that let her know I’m teasing her playfully. Case in point. About 15 minutes ago I had to go to labor and delivery to do a chest xray on a baby. There’s a very cute girl that works there and whenever I see her I tell her, “get a job slacker.” She just smiles and makes a comment about me not working. As I was finishing my exam, there she was, arms folded, grinning and she said, “Looks like SOMEONE’S finally working.” I grinned and told her, “That’s why I make the big bucks girl.” Then she commented on me seeing how hard she works and I told her that I can always tell when a woman’s lying. Her coworker bit and said, “oh yeah how can you tell?” this coworker is also female. I replied-
“Her lips are moving.” And I winked, and walked away.
Both girls were grinning ear to ear. For me, game isn’t about getting laid, it’s about understanding how to interact with women in a manner that women find irresistible. So get out there, and run kid game. Because what works with on an 8 year old works on a 24 year old. Class dismissed.