Single Ladies…..WOMAN UP!!!!Posted: February 19, 2013
i love Mary- seriously. she’s always got some interesting/insightful posts and the commentary is very read-worthy (and i RARELY read comments).
over at Mary’s there’s some talking going on (as per usual). but i think Deti hit the nail on the head with this comment regarding woman who can’t “find a partner”-
The more I think about it, the more Hollenhund’s observations on this seem to be correct. Paraphrasing him: The entirety of women’s dating/marital woes seem to be that they are unable to secure commitment from sufficiently attractive men. Nearly all women who comment/post seem to be in one of the following situations:
1. She can get sex, but not commitment, from attractive men (by far the most common).
2. She is in a relationship with a man who has never been attractive to her.
3. She has from unattractive men offers of commitment that she does not want.
4. She is in a relationship with a man who used to be attractive but is now unattractive.
I’d point this out too: I keep hearing from women that they are having sex with these attractive hot alpha studs because they hope for commitment from these men. Really? If that’s the case, and you think you can get commitment by sleeping with a man, then you should be sleeping with the slightly less attractive men, and snag commitment from THEM.
But women don’t do this. Know why? Because they don’t really want commitment. They want the hot sex from the hot alpha stud. They are in it for the sex, not for the commitment.
If they were REALLY in it for the commitment, they would pursue different strategies. But they don’t. They f*ck the hot men, the alphas, while spurning the less attractive men.
Watch what they do, don’t listen to what they say.
well well well, don’t i know it. my response (i was late to the party yet again)-
“I NEVER lie to women about what I’m looking for in regards to a relationship (not looking for one) before any physical or emotional penetration occurs. And yet the same thing happens.
Her hamster will tell her that SHE’S the special snowflake I’m looking for, sleep with me for a while then realize…..
I really have no intention of LTR’ing her.
Then of course I (and all men for that matter) are vilified and cursed. Rinse repeat. And age range is as follows-
18-24, they just walk.
25-30, “You’re such a f*cking a**hole. I can’t believe I wasted my time caring about you.”
Yeah. As for over 30-
Couldn’t tell you. Never had more than a FWB deal with an over 30 women.”
if i had a dollar for every time i went through this i’d be rich (or at least high middle class). i’ve seen it happen, i’ve had it happen to me, and read about it so often. hell, i’ve even posted about a hypergamous woman that spurned when she was 24 (despite giving IOI’s), then suggested we “get together” and try things out since “i was always into her”- she’s now in her 30’s.
no thanks buttercup. but best of luck to you.
unfortunately for women, men are waking up. women can rail against men all they want- curse us, call us out, but the end game will still be this: you still ain’t married toots. and while i’m not happy that’s it’s come to this, i’ve always been about survival. sure, a meaningful LTR sounds great, but i’m not really holding my breath anymore.