ITLR- Sleeping with a WomanPosted: March 12, 2013
one of my favorite books (and it’s VERY red-pill) is The Unbearable Lightness of Being by Milan Kundera. it’s the story of Tomas and Tereza, Tomas is a surgeon and womanizer married to his wife Tereza. it’s a GREAT story. it’s an existential story based in Nietzsche’s theory of eternal recurrence. “The ‘unbearable lightness’ in the title also refers to the lightness of love and sex, which are themes of the novel. Kundera portrays love as fleeting, haphazard and perhaps based on endless strings of coincidences, despite holding such significance for humans.” if you haven’t read it and “know game” or took the red-pill and haven’t read this book- get off yer ass and give it a read.
a few of my favorite passages-
“The heaviest of burdens crushes us, we sink beneath it, it pins us to the ground. But in love poetry of every age, the woman longs to be weighed down by the man’s body.The heaviest of burdens is therefore simultaneously an image of life’s most intense fulfillment. The heavier the burden, the closer our lives come to the earth, the more real and truthful they become. Conversely, the absolute absence of burden causes man to be lighter than air, to soar into heights, take leave of the earth and his earthly being, and become only half real, his movements as free as they are insignificant. What then shall we choose? Weight or lightness?”
but this. THIS, is the passage that stuck with me-
“Making love with a woman and sleeping with a woman are two separate passions, not merely different but opposite. Love does not make itself felt in the desire for copulation (a desire that extends to an infinite number of women) but in the desire for shared sleep (a desire limited to one woman).”
i can understand this completely. i RARELY let a woman sleep over. i NEVER let a woman who’s not in a relationship with me to spend the night. you’re vulnerable when you’re sleeping. men usually aren’t comfortable making themselves vulnerable, ESPECIALLY with a woman. i just can’t bring myself to sleeping next to a woman i’m not comfortable with or have VERY strong feelings for. i can’t point out when i started this, i just know some time ago (when i was stationed in NO- 1999-2003) i refused to let women stay over or stay at her place after the sex was done. i’ll hang for a bit or let her kick back for a minute, but eventually someone’s going home before i fall asleep.
don’t know if this is just a personal proclivity or i’m truly a fucking wierdo but it’s just how i am. sleep is a VERY personal thing for me, and i DO.NOT. like having a woman with me unless i’m over the moon for her and i know she’s got it bad for me. until i know this…..
grab a shower if you need and i’ll call you a cab.