Dodging a BulletPosted: May 31, 2013
I stopped in one of my local watering holes back in NO to see my girl Brit. I walked in and there she was- the ex. I mean, we’re cool, but it was kind of awkward because I wasn’t expecting to see her. I think we talked for about 2-3 minutes and I split.
I met her via a family friend when I came back from spain. She’s a VERY good looking, petite, busty girl. Like, dem’ bewbies are no joke. Miss those things, I really do. I was running the soft harem when I met her and about 2-3 weeks into it, I was only messing with her. Eventually I decided to give her a shot.
It lasted 3 months.
I’m not going to bash her, but I finally relaized I was better off without her. Then I had a suspicion she had screwed around. Started messing with her in november and by april I dropped her- you DO recall my “rule of 3’s”, right?
Why did I drop her? Well, I gave her my version of a shit test and she failed miserably. She would fly in every month for about a week. On her first trip out I noticed as soon as I got in from work, I had to do dishes and clean for an hour, then cook us dinner. She never left the sofa. SERIOUS red flags popped up in my head. She complained about tending bar, but refused to entertain any suggestions from me on alternatives to benefit her.
Before too long it became a “the sex is the only thing worth holding on to her for” issue. I really didn’t want her to come down for the second visit, but she already bought the ticket. I went into “not fight” mode and was watching EVERYTHING she did. Again, she sat around doing nothing while I worked, came home, then did shit while I was cooking and cleaning. Every second she wasn’t helping, I was letting her go and trying to figure out how I was going to break the news to her that it’s over.
When I dropped her off at the airport after her second trip back in April, I was already gone. I called her 2 days later and ended it. I knew she was into me. But I also knew she was going to be sponging off me. I didn’t see her as a viable long term partner. I was told she was crushed when I broke it off.
The next month I went into NO for my sister’s wedding. I was driving to the ceremony when her bestie (a family friend) informed me about her cheating and the ex even went so far as to lie and say she had told me and I wasn’t going to let it get to me. I was laughing my ass off inside. I asked my friend how the hell she could believe that, especially since she knows me. Whatev’s.
So, now that we’re up to speed- I learned the ex was STILL working the job she ragged about incessantly, BUUUUUUT…..the guy she strted dating after me got her pregnant, and she had had the baby a few months ago. When I talked to the girl I went there looking for, I asked for dirt on the ex. Here’s what I learned.
1. Dude was a total kiss ass and basically had her on a pedestal.
2. After the baby was born she pretty much went into bitch mode and nagged him at every turn. I learned she fought with him every chance she got.
3. She eventually broke up with him and THEN (surprise surprise) got all super serious about child support. She NEVER wanted to spend time with him or let him visit with the baby (oh he can, but it was on HER terms), and made him jump through hoops to see the kid.
I KNEW this was going to happen to me if I had gotten her pregnant or stayed with her. I saw the signs as to her being a lazy “gimme gimme gimme” chick, so I walked. And sure enough, I was right. I told her friend, “THIS is why I ended things with her.” I didn’t want to end up like her current dude. She’s gonna ride him for every penny his beta ass has.
Not I said Dan. And this was WAAAAAAAAAY before I had a blog. Guys, trust your gut and don’t be distracted by a cute face, great tits, and healthy libido. It’s like the saying goes-
“No matter how attractive, smart, and sexy; some guy, somewhere, out there, is sick of her shit. lol.
Oh, and in actual important news. Thankfully, I nuked my FB a long time ago. I still have a FB for the blog, but I’m never on it.