On Being ProtectivePosted: June 27, 2013
Bb ran a good post where she asks the following question-
“So here’s my question: if a man is not protective towards his loved one—and especially his wife—does that mean he doesn’t value her?
we all know i’ve been in a tift or 2 regarding my women (family or lover). well, my response is below.
“ah. i think i’m rather qualified to answer this as the gendersphere well reputed brawler.
1. yes. i think deep down it is a very natural instinct
2. varies from man to man. just as the amount of feminimity per woman.
3. i just answered this in 2.
4. if he’s a real man. YES.
when i learned my mom had the family hide the fact that my then brother-in-law was abusing my baby sister, i went ballistic. when i asked how she could could keep that from me she said, “i didn’t want my son to end up in jail.” she KNOW’S i’d have driven 8 hours just to beat the shit out him.
ran into him 2-3 days later,he walked up to shake my hand and i told him (pardon my french) “walk away jizzbag or i’m going to beat you into the ground.” of course….he turned and walked away. lol.”
then mentioned THIS incident.
“in japan, a drunk dude pushed my gf when he tried hitting on her and she turned him down. i ALWAYS let women deal with that shit until i NEED to get involved.
when he pushed her and she fell down, i went into the red. i grabbed his throat and belt, lifted him, and slammed him to the ground. he was about 6’0″- i’m 5’4″. her coworker grabbed me and drug me out before shore patrol could nab me. the gf had never seen that side of me.
our relationship changed after that needless to say. lol.
it was in total contrast to the Danny she’d known for 5 months.”
my darling sister then asked if it affected out relationship. i replied.
“she had never known i was capable of that. she’s mexican. it made her much more submissive and she didn’t question me as much. when i made a decision, her response was, “ok.”.
after said incident with the gf, what little attitude she gave me disappeared. now, i can’t speak for all men, but i feel it’s a natural instinct to be protective of what’s ours. any woman the feels “objectified” by a man being protective of “what’s his”, doesn’t deserve his protection. even the most ardent feminist will shame a man who doesn’t white knight her or stand up to another dude who gets physical with her.
in contrast (listen up ladies) women need to shut the fuck up when it comes to talking shit to men when we’re around under the assumption we’re gonna be there to bail you out. unless you plan on swinging on him, STFU. I KNOW when it needs to be escalated. don’t force my hand. i WILL leave her to deal with dude if she eggs him on. happened ONCE in japan after i dropped dude. after i told her to STFU (loudly, and in public), i had to explain to her i need to defuse the situation because drunk Marine always travel in packs.
will i fight to protect: yes.
just don’t EXPECT me to do it, and don’t FORCE me to have to. we good.