Put Your Worst Foot ForwardPosted: July 27, 2013
i’m in the navy. we all know that. i think i’ve mentioned it in a few other posts if you’ve been keeping up.
one thing that’s always bothered me is watching active duty guys playing up their “uniform status” in order to impress women. usually, these same guys do nothing but shit talk the military during the normal run of things. i’ve seen it time and time again and it always pisses me off.
i’ve never been one to use the fact that i wear a uniform to impress women. if they ask, of course i’ll own up to the fact that i’m navy, i’m not ashamed of it. but the only time i ever used my “active duty” status to my advantage was right after 9/11. and even then, my friends were the ones that brought me being navy. we’d be out in the quarter, at and they’d blurt out-
“dude, you shipping out? what they got you doing?” lol.
i’d just shrug my shoulders and reply, “i have my sea bag prepped, my living will done, and now i just have to stand by.”
now…..this wasn’t necessarily a lie, on 9/11, we were sent home around noon and told we were on 24 hour notice. which basically meant to be by a phone and available at any time. 2 days later we reported back to work, updated our shot record, filled out forms, made sure our medical record was up to date, ordered to do our living will (legal was a fucking madhouse), and to stand by.
of course my friends being my friends, they were all too happy to loft this over the plate for me to get laid. and well, it sure did work. i got more ass in the months following 9/11 than in any other stretch of time in my life. everyone i knew, knew i was in the navy so every damn person would ask me what they were going to be doing with me. and i’d always answer that i had no clue.
but as far as i’m concerned using an active duty status to impress women is weak sauce. i’m of the mind-set that you need to play up your weaker points in game. i don’t believe in using your stronger qualities as a crutch. it speaks much more of a man’s character when he learns to make his lesser qualities attractive.
the manner in which you do so is completely up to you. i use self-deprecation, but that’s just me. my lesser qualities being my height and looks, i choose to point out these facts and show that i don’t take myself too seriously. i’ve found that this loosens up people and they act less defensively towards you. when you learn to generate tingles based off your lesser qualities, your game is elevated to jedi status. if you question this, please go to my “about” page, look at my picture and realize the host of this site has the sex appeal of rectal cancer.
of course it helps that women tend to look past physical characteristics but without a decent amount of game, charm, charisma….whatever, i’d be dead in the water.
to me, when you rely on your strengths you never grow as an individual. turning a blind eye to your “faults” is huge mistake. it’s a mistake because your “faults” are not faults at all. they are insecurities you’ve used to define yourself unjustly against others. i am no less “worthy” of respect at 5’4″ than a man who is 6’1″. apply the same to yourself.
so list your “lesser qualities”, set it on fire, and piss on the blaze. i’ll quit now before i go off on some tony robbins bullshit. lol. i think you get what i’m saying.