“When am I going to meet your family?” :/Posted: September 17, 2013
i’m going home early october and i’ve already reserved my hotel room for the weekends i’ll be there. i usually stay at my mom’s place in a very upscale neighborhood.
well, not during the weekends.
i wrote before about having a phone call with mom and i mentioned getting a hotel room. she asked me where i was staying and my stepfather asked why i getting a room. my mother, who’s ninja at side stepping replied, “because he can’t stay here.” my step father protested (i actually heard him) and my mother repeated what she had just said, though a tad more terse. again, my stepfather was confused and insisted on my staying at the house (to save money, he’s just like that). my mom covered the phone and i heard her say-
“he has girls he wants to fuck and he can’t bring them here.”
mom’s post menopausal and doesn’t take shit like a good little girl anymore. so her lack of subtley was hilarious. 6-7 year’s ago she’d NEVER talk like that. when i told her the other day i had booked my hotel room, my stepfather asked if it were anyone she’d met. i told her the names of 2 of them and mom was VERY surprised.
one is a girl who was a friend and she came over to visit. next time i came down “it” went down unexpectedly. the other is a girl i dated in high school. i even posted a pic here of her. now that daughter is in school, i can “take her to lunch” during the week and then, “go some where” for a bit.
outside of those 2 my mother has only met TWO other women i was involved with. one was my case of oneitis, the other was an ex who was besties with a family friend. had she not know my girl candi, i NEVER would have introduced her to my family.
i was in san diego and the girl i dated in japan was down for a class and we were “hanging out”, well, my mom was 45 minutes up north and decided to drive down with visit. i explained this to ex, and she asked if i were taking her along. it was awkward, but i told her curtly, “no.” it was immediately dropped but i think that was the final straw to my insistinig to the ex that we were DONE.
my enitre family knows about me. my cousin and sister caught me copping a girl’s number that worked for the funeral home that we had paw-paw’s wake at. lol. that led to said cousin learning about my website. shocked, my cousin asked my mom if she’s known about my being decent with women for a long time. my mom just stared at her and said, “of course, he’s my oldest and only son.”
color my cousin shocked.
introducing a woman to my family is a HUGE thing for me. much like women i cook for aside from the “women i see naked part” is just modified to “women i am in a serious relationship with.” and that usually take some time for me to determine. it also maintains the frame that we aren’t exclusive and i think women just KNOW what’s up when they never meet your family.
take the advice or leave it. it’s just something that’s worked for me.