ITLR: How to Make Her Fall in Love With YouPosted: October 2, 2013
this is obviously for the guys looking for a LTR, not just looking for a +1.
i’m not one to side with the camp that points fingers at guys and talks shit to them when it comes to game and red-pill philosophy. it’s too easy to do and IMO is a piss-poor way to go. i’d rather TEACH than shame. anyone can complain, i prefer offering a solution.
the last 4 women i was intimately involved with were in love. they all dropped the “L bomb” within 3-4 months. 1 woman was sicilian back when i was stationed in tialy so i can’t really count her. the other 3 were 2 mexicans and 1 white girl. and i did the exact same thing with all of them. how did i do it?
FIRST. she must be properly vetted. if i can see something not there, or the chemsitry is wrong, there’s no point in running this. so, you need to employ my “rule of three’s” and “the 3 pillars”. remember, i know after 3 dates if i want to continue with it. after 3 months, i’ll know if i want to end it, or keep it going. between month 4-6 i will be taking notes and IF i end it, it’s usually around month 4. if she makes it to 6 months, i’ll usually commit. now, IF i know things are copisetic with her, i must begin laying the foundation to make her fall for me.
the next task is getting her to make an emotional investment. once a woman invests in you emotionally, your work is half-way done. i’ve seen woman walk through hell and back because she’s made the investment. and i’m talking beautiful women, smart women, amazing women. there’s something hardwired in their DNA to give you a TON of leeway simply because she’s emotionally invested in a guy. and EVERY woman i know knows what i mean when i say, “she’s made an emotional invetement in him.”
in the begining, you must know/learn everything about her: favorite food, least favorite food, family dynamic, ambitions, how was her childhood, what was she like in school, was she a hottie on guys radar’s or a late bloomer, when’s her period? (yes, i’m serious) these are all things that you need to know as to make her YOUR woman. you get to know all the shit she just doesn’t share with other people. once she starts revealing these things, you’re well on your way. by the time i’ve been with a woman for 2 months i know damn near EVERYTHING about her i need to know. and, most people will tell you everything you need to know about them in casual conversation. so pay attention when she’s talking. daunting i know, but it pays off in the long run.
also, you begin to let her into your world. most women LOVE learning about a man they are interested in. they absorb details of your life like a sponge. they cherish these details. this is where having a mission/purpose and hobbies causes women go into uncontrolable tingles. i’ll take a girl to the gun range, let her watch me disassemble and clean a gun, watch me cook; hell i’ve had girls geek out over how worked up i get watching a saints game. it’s a guy thing; they get that and they LOVE it. remember, women love men because we AREN’T women.
this part is where guys like to argue with me, but trust me. this is key- go along with 95% of what she wants to do. i mean, let’s face it 95% of what she wants to do is innocuous. but the genius in it is this- at some point there will something she wants to do that i am dead set against. this is when i get to execute my BF veto. once the woman wanted me to go watch some disney animated nonsense. i told her i’d go to the base with her and she could watch the movie with her bestie. she saw a movie and i read “the sorrow’s of young werther” at starbucks. and when i said no, she didn’t press it.
not this this doesn’t have stipulations. there’s some shit i just don’t do. one of the gf’s was an avid dancer. she tried getting me to dance and i told her i didn’t like it, and i couldn’t do it. she pressed me about it and i got pissed. i RARELY get angry with women, so when i do, they notice and don’t push it. if she does, she drops a pillar. so this isn’t as “beta” as some guys will profess. besides, a relationship is 2 sided: as long as she’s feminine and takes care of me, i’m willing to give a little.
you must meet her family first. i NEVER introduce a woman to my family until i’ve met hers. you go first, you come off as too eager. let her make that first step. usually, they can’t wait to introduce you. this is where it’s good to know the dynamic she has with her family. i can better gauge how she acts around them when i already have an idea of how her family works. once you’ve met her family she’ll be DYING to meet yours: especially if she knows you’re close to your family.
sex. look i like to fall back on the old saying “if the sex is good, it’s 10% of the relationship. if the sex is bad, it’s 90% of the relationship.” very true, so fuck her so well that she’ll be thanking God she was born a woman. also, this is where sexual compatibility comes into play. if a woman’s libido isn’t in sync with mine, it probably won’t work. this is why i urge guys to sleep with a woman as early as they can. before i put too much effort in, i need to know we’re both good when i get it in.
i know it’s pretty common knowledge but she must drop the “L bomb” first. even after she says it, i typically won’t say it back (especially if i KNOW i don’t love her yet) right away. i’ll typically respond with han solo’s classic, “i know”. VERY alpha move; just don’t be a dick when you say it.
be a damn man. i’ve often said if the woman won’t submit, i won’t commit. but when she submits i have a MAJOR responsibility to be a good leader and to protect her. you don’t need to micromanage her life. but when it comes down to a decision being made, make it and STICK to it. even if it’s the worng choice that’s fine, it’s the fact that you stepped up that means so much to her. remember, there’s a fine line between being decisive and being dictatorial. dictatorial will only work for so long. so learn the difference and be the former.
i’m sure i could think of more, but i know i covered most of it. rememeber every woman is different so you’ll tweek this to suit her. but all 4 of the women that loved me i won over by doing what i listed above. hope this helps.
[ed- the wrong clip of Patrice got linked, i fixed it. PLEASE listen to some true game genius. Patrice OWNS kay during the discussion and makes a LOT of solid points]
i figured i’d add this. one of the GF’s heard me mouthing these lyrics and she ended associating the band with me. she downloaded their entire catalogue.
same band, different GF, same results. i’ve always been VERY passionate about my music and when girls learn about it, they become passionate about it as well.