ITLR: Help a Brother OutPosted: October 30, 2013 | |
i’d been waiting to post this email until after “The Sailor” post as it’s a PERFECT segue-way into the advice i gave at the end of it. i don’t get tons of email, but when i do i try and make it a point to help out. in this case, i called the guy and spoke with him. he gave me his permission to post this.
“Danny, first I just want to say thanks for sharing your experiences and advice on your blog; it’s the shit.
I am a 23 year old male recently graduated from college, solid job, small apartment…pretty much your average shy guy. However, I was introduced to the manopshere over a year ago and I took the red pill so to speak. Needless to say I have become obsessed.
Over the past year:
– I have read and re-read numerous blogs, acquired and read all the materials: Bang, Day Bang, Pick-up Bible, etc, and I have watched hours of pick-up videos on Youtube.
– I have worked my ass off in the gym getting muscular and ripped. (not to brag but to make a point…I am a very good looking man, numerous women have called me hot to my face).
-I have tried to make my mission my life: focused on getting a job, then working hard at that job, researching and studying ways to make more money, and researching ways to be more sociable.
-I have studied the art of body language and have exercised the principles well. Although its more of a fake front than anything.
-Overall I have just focused on self improvement and becoming a better man.
With all of the advice surrounding the manosphere: get a good body, focus on your mission, build confidence, be an asshole, acquire money, do 100 approaches, do only approaches with IOIs, IT GETS FUCKING FUSTRATING.
Then when I stumble upon your blog, its like a giant slap in the face (forgive me for my ranting). But you are not that attractive and you are in your late 30’s (although I am aware of the SMV age bracket and I AGREE with it. A fat fucking 34 year old co-worker gets a shit ton of young hot poon, it boggles my mind). I know it is your attitude and the way you carry yourself. HOW THE FUCK DO I BE LIKE YOU. All I think about is getting laid with girls: high school girls, college girls, cougars. I want to be a sex machine.
As you can see the frustration with guys like me who kill themselves working out, trying to get girls to notice them, ( I do get a lot of stares and I hold eye-contact until they look away-BUT I AM GOING TO TRY YOUR STICK OUT TOUNGE TECHNIQUE- however that usually as far as it gets). But then see guys like you and my co-worker getting all the young hot girls….It’s like a dagger in the heart. No offense.
WHAT CAN I DO TO BE MORE LIKE YOU…YOUR ATTITUDE. ….I am going crazy. I just want to get laid with a lot of women.
Thanks for listening,
A frustrated young man”
the reason i decided to post this is i KNOW it resonates with a lot of young men, wether they care to admit to it or not. i get emails like this once in a while and tbh, it’s keeps me blogging. i feel for this kid; i know his frustration, i’ve been there. a lot of us have been there. i know writing something like this can be very difficult for guys.
one thing that stood out was where he said this, “WHAT CAN I DO TO BE MORE LIKE YOU…”
this made me feel kind of uneasy. i’ve always been that type that never wanted to wear jordan’s jersey, i wanted people wearing MY jersey. so while i up to certain persons, i only want to be ME. i don’t want my life to mirror anyone else’s. so i told guy to focus on his strong points (and keep those frosty), but concentrate on his weaker parts to bang out those kinks in the armor.
and as far as women, he’s in the days where (unless he has MAJOR game), he’s going to take his lumps in the SMP. by the time he crosses into into his 30’s, his outlook will change and he’s be the one qualifying women.