Sleeping with a WomanPosted: November 16, 2013
“Making love with a woman and sleeping with a woman are two separate passions, not merely different but opposite. Love does not make itself felt in the desire for copulation (a desire that extends to an infinite number of women) but in the desire for shared sleep (a desire limited to one woman).”
-Milan Kundera, “The Unbearable Lightness of Being”
when i read this it really resonated with me. i NEVER let women stay over. after the sex, we can shower, but then she has to go. if i’m at her place, i bounce. i don’t care if it makes me a dick, i don’t care what the women i’ve slept with thinks about it. the way i see it, we aren’t in a relationship. if she feels slighted because i gunned it down then left, well then, she needs to rethink her decisions. mondays post will show how i “hit it and dipped” the first time i banged my ex.
but let take a step back, i LOVE sleeping with a woman. seriously. i don’t know how it goes for all couples, but the ritual occurs like this for me and a gf. we start out with the cuddling bullshit. she’ll scratch my back or my neck. there’s small talk, then eventually she heads to her side, i head to mine. and i ALWAYS sleep on the right side
i think a lot stems from the fact that when you sleep, you’re vunerable. and most men DO.NOT like making themselves vunerable. so when you meet a woman you connect with, it’s a welcome change to sleep with her. as far as i’m concerned, it’s one of the ultimate forms of trust a man can offer. hell, i’ll bang at the drop of a hat (almost), but let her sleep with me?
no. thanks for the pussy, but i got shit to do tomorrow.
i’m wondering if it’s a reciproical thing. i’m sure women appreciate the intimacy of it. i’m sure there HAS to be a different thought process for women when it comes to sleeping with a man. though i doubt little of has to do with the “vunerablility” i mentioned before. i’m guessing it’s more of a bonding thing- shared sleep for women.
the first time i slept with the object of my oneitis (banged her on the first date. YISH!!!), i knew i didn’t want her to leave. after some marathon sport fucking and a shower, it was time to sleep. i was out immediately. i THINK i held her at first, then ended up on my side. the next morning, we were heading off to grab lunch and i asked her if i snored while i sleep. she answered-
“no, you fart.”
i was visibly embarrassed (and i NEVER get embarrassed). she responded to my awkward face with, “no big deal, it’s kinda cute.”
but there’s a question i need an answer for. why? WHY is a woman 9000 degrees under the covers, but her ass is always 30 below? i HATE being asleep and suddenly i feel this stinging cold in the small of my back. smh.