Sleeping with a Woman

“Making love with a woman and sleeping with a woman are two separate passions, not merely different but opposite. Love does not make itself felt in the desire for copulation (a desire that extends to an infinite number of women) but in the desire for shared sleep (a desire limited to one woman).”

-Milan Kundera, “The Unbearable Lightness of Being”

when i read this it really resonated with me. i NEVER let women stay over. after the sex, we can shower, but then she has to go. if i’m at her place, i bounce. i don’t care if it makes me a dick, i don’t care what the women i’ve slept with thinks about it. the way i see it, we aren’t in a relationship. if she feels slighted because i gunned it down then left, well then, she needs to rethink her decisions. mondays post will show how i “hit it and dipped” the first time i banged my ex.

but let take a step back, i LOVE sleeping with a woman. seriously. i don’t know how it goes for all couples, but the ritual occurs like this for me and a gf. we start out with the cuddling bullshit. she’ll scratch my back or my neck. there’s small talk, then eventually she heads to her side, i head to mine. and i ALWAYS sleep on the right side

i think a lot stems from the fact that when you sleep, you’re vunerable. and most men DO.NOT like making themselves vunerable. so when you meet a woman you connect with, it’s a welcome change to sleep with her. as far as i’m concerned, it’s one of the ultimate forms of trust a man can offer. hell, i’ll bang at the drop of a hat (almost), but let her sleep with me?

no. thanks for the pussy, but i got shit to do tomorrow.

i’m wondering if it’s a reciproical thing. i’m sure women appreciate the intimacy of it. i’m sure there HAS to be a different thought process for women when it comes to sleeping with a man. though i doubt little of has to do with the “vunerablility” i mentioned before. i’m guessing it’s more of a bonding thing- shared sleep for women.

the first time i slept with the object of my oneitis (banged her on the first date. YISH!!!), i knew i didn’t want her to leave. after some marathon sport fucking and a shower, it was time to sleep. i was out immediately. i THINK i held her at first, then ended up on my side. the next morning, we were heading off to grab lunch and i asked her if i snored while i sleep. she answered-

“no, you fart.”

i was visibly embarrassed (and i NEVER get embarrassed). she responded to my awkward face with, “no big deal, it’s kinda cute.”

but there’s a question i need an answer for. why? WHY is a woman 9000 degrees under the covers, but her ass is always 30 below? i HATE being asleep and suddenly i feel this stinging cold in the small of my back. smh.

stay up.


14 Comments on “Sleeping with a Woman”

  1. St Swithunus says:

    Making a cup of coffee is like making love to a beautiful woman. It’s got to be hot. You’ve got to take your time. You’ve got to stir… gently and firmly. You’ve got to grind your beans until they squeak. And then you put in the milk.

    • dannyfrom504 says:

      i prefer to just blast my beans on her it on her tummy.

      i’m not referring to sex. lol.

      On Sun, Nov 17, 2013 at 6:32 AM, dannyfrom504

    • St Swithunus says:

      Do you use any artificial aids, or do you just keep it straight with maybe just a dash of vanilla?

      As it says in an ad I found

      “Transform hot milk into a rich creamy topping with an electric milk frother”

  2. St Swithunus says:

    Going fishing is very much like making love to a beautiful woman. First of all, clean and inspect your tackle, carefully pull back your rod cover, and remove any dirt or gunge that may have built up whilst not in use. Then, extend your rod to its full length, and check that there are no kinks or any wear, particularly at the base, where the grip is usually applied. Make sure you’ve got a decent float, the appropriate bait, and that there’s plenty of shot in your bag.

  3. Tin Man says:

    Interesting. Spending the night has never been a problem for me – never thought too much about it – the shower thing is the that feels more intimate to me. Back in the day, I would jump in a chick’s shower to wash off and a few would join me – I’d usually finish up quickly and get out. That freaked me out. Sleeping not so much, I like sex in the morning.

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  6. MissMarie says:

    For me, if I had to choose one or the other, it would be sleeping. I’m touch-starved and I’m big on cuddling/touching. It’s just a good feeling to know you’re not alone while you sleep, makes me calm and I actually sleep better. I really prefer to have the right person and do sex then sleep, though. That’s the best. Especially if they sleep long enough that I have the chance to wake them up properly 😉

  7. For the record, my feet are cold, not my ass. 🙂 Plus, I like to sleep alone … I like my space. 🙂 I need to really want him in my life to share a bed with him.

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