False Sexual Assault Claims in the Military are a MythPosted: January 14, 2014
at least that’s what the military would have you believe.
i thought long and hard before posting this then figured, it’s a true story, no names will be released; why not? i had been at one command for about 6-7 months. back then, i actually used to hang out with guys at work. there was a party at a friends apartment and it was all military types. age range 19-22/3.
one of the girls in the clinic was there and she got flirty with one of the new guys. they ended up fooling around and next thing i knew, they headed up stairs. this went down after about 2 hours of light petting, ocassionally kissing, holding hands. you know- doing the dance.
they came back down, and honestly, no one really paid them any attention. they hung around the party for about another hour- light PDA, holding hands, then girl left. soon after i left. it was actually a pretty fun party.
then the shit storm. i’ll just get to the point. basically, girl had a crush on a dude in the command. he basically didn’t want anything to do with her because she hooked up with dude and he thought that was pretty slutty. well, of course this didn’t sit well with girl, and from i learned later (via legal), was she was talking with a famle co-worker about it and she said, “i didn’t really want it to happen, i just went with it.”
well, a female E7 over heard this and IMMEDIATELY brought her to security where she made a voluntary statement basically to the tune of the comment i just provided. next thing i know, dude comes to me and tells me he’s got DRB (disciplinary review board). a DRB is the first step to NJP (non judicial punishment). he was recommended to XOI (executive officer inquiry) and it was well known that he wasing to go to mast (NJP).
being found guilt means: loss of rank, loss of half a months pay for 2 months and possible restriction to a special restricted barracks for 45 days. it’s not a court martial, but it can be a very uncomfortable and frightening.
i was fucking pissed. i ended up going to security and making a vountary statement on behalf of my friend as to tell the truth about the event. during his hearing i was brought in by security to be a “event witness”. the primary testimony i gave was that i saw them go upstairs tother after they had been kissing and very affectionate. they came downstairs a little while later and they continued to hold hands and showed more PDA until she left.
the CO, a female, then asked me if i had actually witnessed what occurred in the room. i answered no, then said, “but it sure didn’t look like either of them regretted going upstairs.” i was then excused from the room.
he ended up getting a serious tongue lashing, but wasn’t “awarded” any diciplinary action. i learned had it not been for my coming forward, she was gonna throw the book at the kid. girl felt mortified by what happened, and i told her i couldn’t speak to her again because she ALLOWED this to happen. she could have come forward at any time. but i have a question:
what do you think happened AFTER this went down?
command morale went into a death spiral. the guys completely avoided the girls. when we’d be sitting around joking and tooling around, and a girl shwed up- we were gone. we said what we needed to say as far as work was concerend but ZERO casual conversation. and what happens when the boys don’t include the girls in boy play?
they pout. they HATE being ignored. especially when it’s damn near ALL the guys avoiding them yet they see the guys still having a good time; only to learn they aren’t invited to our reindeer games.
ultimately, a woman overheard a girl expressing regret for hooking up and forced her to make a statement. well, this was WELL over 10 years ago and i can tell you the enviorment has just gotten worse. i’m writing this because we’ve had yet ANOTHER mandatory “sexual assault prevention” stand down. i kid you not we had one 3 months ago. and they are the most misandrist and sexist videos ever. there’s a 30 second blurb where they ask if men can be victims and the video provides the CYA response of “of course” then goes right back into making women the perpetual victim.
then, navy policy states that if you’ve had one alcoholic beverage, you cannot consent to sex. yet time and time again when a couple have sex even after having “one alcoholic beverage, the male is punished and the female gets a slap on the wrist. i seen it happen WAY too many times for the navy to call “BS” on that.
now you know i refuse to get involved with military women. is EVERY accusation a lie: no, of course not. but i’ll post on that tomorrow.
less than a month of this shit. i can’t wait to get out.