The Art of Female Ejaculation
i’ve thought for a while on posting about this, and as far as i know, it hasn’t been covered (i asked Badger). for the purpose of this post, you will NOT be talking to the charming Sailor that usually posts. you will be speaking to HM1(SW)Danny. i will be using Medical terminology, and clinic speak.
first things first. before you even ATTEMPT this endeavor, the girl has to be VERY comfortable with you (and herself). this is not something to try and “wing”. you must explain to the woman that as the orgasm approaches she’s going to feel like she has to urinate. this is where most women have difficulties. the “squirting” DOES come from the womans urethra, but the fluid is secreted from the Skene’s gland. it’s alkaline in nature (like urine) but is NOT urine. this is what freaks women out. they get self-conscious, feel it building, have the sensation of urinating building up, and they…..hold back. this is what messed the ex up. it took 4 runs; each time lasting about 15-20 minutes of yours truly wearing his arm out before she finally “popped”. she was nervous and self conscious that she was going to “pee on me”. i had to constantly coax her to “just let go”.
the climax produced from this is a “vaginal orgasm”. most women experience “clitoral orgasms”. clitoral orgasm are great (ask any woman), but vaginal orgasm’s are a WHOLE other monster. the french call it “le petite morte” or “the little death”. this orgasm involves the g-spot. now, not all women have one (so don’t blame her). to find hers, curve your index finer and middle finger (like the picture below) and gently feel the upper portion of her vagina, you should feel a slightly spongy textured section (about the size of a quarter) about an inch or so from the entrance of her vagina. trust me, that area feels MUCH different from the other sections of the vaginal walls.
insert these 2 fingers inside after you’ve “warmed her up”. if “warming her up” needs explaining….please quit reading. you’re not ready for this.
place the heel of the palm of your free hand just above her pubic bone and push down slightly. now, this is where most guys have a hard time. you have to move your hand in a up-and-down circular motion inside her….HARD. i know you think it looks uncomfortable, but remember….she can push an 8 pound child through there, you ain’t hurting her. start out relatively gently and slowly and go harder and use more pressure based on her reaction. seriously, i’ve NEVER had a girl go, “OOOW, WHAT THE HELL!!!”. and make sure your nails are trimmed, you don’t want to cut her. with your fingers curved in said manner you will be stimulating her G-spot. you can also go in an up-and-down motion to get to said result. every woman is different, you’re going to have to experiment (but that’s the fun part). feedback from her is crucial. she should feel an intense stimulation leading to a feeling for having to urinate. if she feel’s like she’s going to urinate, YOU’RE DOING IT RIGHT. encourage her, encourage her, encourage her. if/when she finally squirts immediately compliment her with a hearty, “good girrrrl.” i know this may sound patronizing, but this is what karen taught me: girls have a hard-wired trigger to the “good girl” phrase. she said it’s a VERY strong/positive phrase linked to most women’s girlhood. again, i’ve used often and never had a woman get upset at my saying it.
your success with this is going to be based mostly on how comfortable she is sexually. if she’s somewhat of a repressed girl, she’s going to have a hard time ejaculating. and…..some girls simply won’t be able to achieve it. go through the motions i just explained and if she feels a climax building stay with whatever pressure you’re applying. if it get’s more intense…..you’re on the right track. it may take a few attempts to get her there. but if you do, it’s WELL worth it. as the lady who taught me this pointed out, “guy screw up by changing rhythm/pressure when a girl says she’s getting close, DON’T DO THAT. if she says she’s getting close, DON’T CHANGE ANYTHING. use the exact pace and pressure you’re using.” every women i’ve mentioned this to laughed and nodded in agreement when i brought this up.
if you get her there, expect a stream of fluid to squirt from her urethra (every woman is different, some squirt a forceful stream, others have a light trickle), she will likely convulse and NOT want to be touched immediately afer. i got kicked pretty hard the first time the ex squirted, and was knocked off the bed. the orgasm produced from this method is VERY intense so after she climaxes let her be until she lets you know she wants to be touched again. it very well could take up to 5 minutes for her to recover. again praise her if she get’s there, it can be a pretty big achievement for her to ejaculate, it’s VERY difficult for some girls so ALWAYS encourage and praise her.
again, realize this takes practice and you may have to try it a few times to get results. i KNOW what i’m doing with this and it took the ex 4 times before she was finally able to “let go”. but the results are worth it. the good news is that once she’s experienced it, she can produce said results herself. as karen explained, “danny, you could know everything there is to know about a woman’s body, but if she doesn’t know her body…..you’re aiming at a target in the dark.” so guys, don’t go too hard on yourself is she doesn’t get there. this should be a fun experience for the both of you, not a science project, so keep it intamate. a woman can tell when you’re doing something simply for your ego, so you HAVE to make the experience 100% ABOUT HER OWN PLEASURE.
best of luck, and i’d love to hear about success stories with this. and tell your gf/wife i said “you’re welcome.” lol.
Female Ejaculation. Follow Up.
alright, i’m speaking with the woman who reads and says she can ejaculate (she had me remove her post). she agreed to a “Q and A”. here’s what she told me. i don’t see her commenting as she’s a bit shy. but she’s been very gracious as to offering up information. she’s probably sick of me calling. lol.
“i know what i’m doing (in regards to pulling this off). that post has received a TON of views (216 total, and 7 views today and it’s going up). the entire purpose of the blog is to teach guys. that’s all i care about. seriously. but i respect your not wanting to share, if that’s your choice. i find posting about my real life validates that an average, ok looking guy can be relatively successful with women. i appreciate you reading. i don’t get a lot of comments because i think most guys are to shy to speak up because they’re embarrassed.
“I might consent to a Q&;A or something. But the answers would all be anecdotal. I’ve discussed it with my close girlfriends (their advice is pretty much the same as yours, btw: “fuck em” – not literally) My bestie has done it a few times, but it’s rare for her.
I was just reading the wikipedia. I’m surprised how much disbelief there is in just the existence of female ejaculation. It’s sorta funny, but I’m not surprised. As far as I know there is only one girl who is doing it where people can see and she’s a porn star. I can’t imagine a woman willing to “squirt for science”, if she even could. I certainly wouldn’t.”
“well, i had a lesbian room-mate go down on her gf to show me how to “read” a womans body. then she showed me how dana could squirt and how she had to manipulate dana with her fingers. i was 25 at the time. i’m very fortunate. i was just hoping you could give a brief “blow by blow” *wokka wokka* on when you start to how you finally climax. i know a woman back home that can, but she prefers being penetrated the standard way. she find’s climax from ejaculation uncomfortable.
before you climax do you feel like you’re going to urinate.
i posted this b/c i found out there aren’t a lot of the other blogs posting about it. and if a guy could learn it, it’ll be just one more skill that will please his woman. it’s not a “dude, high five, guess what i can do?” that would annoy me.”
“It’s not the same as needing to urinate. It is a kind of pressure from your bladder, so it’s similar. In fact, if you hold it in the same way that you hold a full bladder when you’re stuck in traffic after 3 lattes, you can stop it. (not you obviously, pardon my pronouns) It took me a while to learn to tell the difference between wanting to come and needing to pee (fortunately I learned this on my own, so nobody got peed on.) It looks and smells different from pee though, it’s clear and it doesn’t smell like pee, it smells like p***y. [edit-this sentence made me VERY happy. it made my wee move ]
“how did you teach yourself? did you use a toy or fingers? karen told me most women need/want something inserted in there to clamp down on. this pressure, do you find you just have to “let go” and allow the process to happen?
would you say my description and method was accurate. i.e.-would it work on you?
“Yeah. You need something inside. A man’s fingers are adequate, but mine are too small. I have a cheap $10 vibrator, but the vibration was too much so I took the batteries out. I’d imagine a less sensitive girl could stand using a g-spot vibrator.”
“i use just fingers, but have told women that have inquired about how to do it, i always tell them to use the vibrator “that has the upward curve” and insert up side to the upper portion of her vagina.
so yes, regarding the pressure: you do just have to “let go” and allow it to happen? how long does it take for you to climax, and do you find that once you learn, you can make yourself orgasm relatively quickly?”
“Sorta depends on how aroused I was to begin with. I’m pretty sure most women take a lot longer than I do.
Mine doesn’t have an upward curve, I just angle it. I also like to put it in as far as it will go and use my fingers to slam it against the back. (though guys shouldn’t try that unless they can draw a detailed map of a vagina because it hurts if you hit the cervix).”
“oh i could see how that would be painful. which is why i recommend the method i use. obviously you know your body, so you’re good. most guys are absolutely clueless about everything beyond the clitoris.
how does a clitoral orgasm, feel compared to a vaginal orgasm. and do you have a preference?”
“A clitoral orgasm without penetration reaches a crescendo and then fizzles out. A clitoral orgasm with penetration is better. I can usually ejaculate from that no problem. Though it’s not the same as a g-spot orgasm, which, if properly executed is a bit like losing my mind for a minute while it takes a trip through the Halls of Asgard. Meanwhile my entire body gets this dizzy feeling. It’s hard to describe, you know when you get dizzy and you have a sort of tingling sensation in your head? Imagine that in your legs, arms, torso, etc. and it’s all radiating from your crotch, which you can no longer feel the components of, it all just feels like a mass of vibrating jello. Squirting is like opening a pressure valve on all of that. It’s not necessarily the end.
Add to that:
Except when it is the end. There will be no doubt when she’s had enough. That’s the part when somebody gets kicked.”
“i see. so, you don’t have to squirt to have a g-spot orgasm? you obviously know your body. what’s alarming to me is how many WOMEN don’t understand how their orgasm works outside of clitoral stimulation. the ex was that way. in your experience from yourself or friends can you string them in succession (multiple orgasm) when you have a g-spot orgasm?
after climax…..how long is your typical recovery time?”
“Multiples are a whole different animal. You can have multiples from the clit, but it tends to get really sensitive which makes further stimulation painful. It’s a bit like a teeny-tiny penis (side tangent, my bestie and I like to say disgusting things in crowded restrooms just to see who laughs. My favorite is to go into a stall and say, “What CAN you do with a one-inch clit?”) G-spot stimulation creates multiples quite nicely, though personally I think it takes too long to get going, I like a little clit-love to get it going. Multiples and squirting are not mutually exclusive. Also squirting is not necessarily an indicator of intensity. Sometimes I’ll have several ejaculations before the big orgasm that causes me to twitch and shake and climb off of whatever is stimulating me (or kick the guy-lol) and the last big one won’t produce any fluid at all.
Typically recovery time: about a minute before I can snuggle, about 20-30 minutes before I can go again….if I’m not busy getting a snack.”
“i see. as far as i’m know, i haven’t had a girl go multile Miggs on me. so this is a huge help for a future girlfriend. i was kicked yes, and it was about 2-3 minutes before she’d let me touch her again. then she started laughing a giggling (though this was just an idiosyncrasy of her when she climaxed).
i can’t think of any other questions at the moment. but i really appreciate your talking to me about this.
any advice you’d offer to guys who want to give their gf/wife a g-spot, ejaculating or vaginal orgasm?”
I don’t know. All women are different and I’ve never given a girl an orgasm. What works on me probably won’t work on other women, because I’m clearly a freak of nature with way too many vaginal nerve endings.
I’m interested in this boob orgasm business. How does that work?”
i’ll ask OTC to elaborate. but i knew a woman what said shee can climax just by a guy playing with her breasts. i dated a woman in san diego who could orgasm by simply going down on a me. it was kind freaky becuse she’d be servicing me, then she’s just suddenly shudder, stop for a second, sigh, then go back to work.
again….again, as you stated: all women are different”
i hope this gives you guys some insight. i ALWAYS talk openly with the gf about what “pushed her buttons”. actually, i experiment with her as much as i can to see what works for her as many women have a hard time being open about about what they like don’t like. but i ALWAYS ask first. if she doesn’t offer much insight. then i have to “learn the local terrain.”